Loving Ourselves First

To celebrate Valentine's Day, when we take the time to show our love for others, let's take time to love ourselves as well.

Here are some ways:

Realizing that without self-love our lives will never really work. It is not selfish, conceited or wrong. We are worth it, we deserve it and we need to own it and practice it.

Practicing self-care in the form that means the most to us: a hot stone massage, a long walk in nature, snuggling with a pet,  meditation, a warm cup of tea in blissful silence....

Saying no when we want to without guilt or regret.

Being honest, truthful and authentic with ourselves first and then with others, even if it hurts or disappoints them.

Loving our imperfections, our mistakes and our darker sides as much as our successes.

Not buying our own excuses when we are afraid of taking a risk or putting ourselves out there.

Letting our unique talents and gifts shine.

Speaking our truth with love for ourselves and others.

Choosing healthy relationships that honor us knowing that, they too, will be imperfect at times.

Looking in the mirror and saying "I love you!"

Making a commitment to practice self-love every day in some form knowing that it has the potential to transform our lives.










New Book Review from Writers Digest! 





Books are evaluated on a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 meaning “needs improvement” and 5 meaning “outstanding”. This scale is strictly to provide a point of reference, it is not a cumulative score and does not reflect ranking. Our system only recognizes numerals during this portion of logging evaluations. As a result, a “0” is used in place of “N/A” when the particular portion of the evaluation simply does not apply to the particular entry, based on the entry genre. For example, a book of poetry or a how to manual, would not necessarily have a “Plot and Story Appeal and may therefore receive a “0”.

Judge, 24th Annual Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards:


Structure, Organization, and Pacing: 5

Spelling, Punctuation, and Grammar: 5

Production Quality and Cover Design: 5

Plot and Story Appeal: 0

Character Appeal and Development: 0

Voice and Writing Style: 4


Judge’s Commentary*:

This book is an insightful guide, based on spiritual principles, to help parents put their children on the path of a useful purpose in life, to gain achievement, and to generate happiness. At the same time the book shows how parents can make positive and possibly parallel changes in their own lives. The values extolled take in how to honor your children’s individual goals, how to show appreciation of their growth, how to nurture a deeper level of love, and how to practice self-forgiveness as well as forgiveness for others. A key tenet imbued is how to create relationships based on acceptance, honesty, and compassion.
      Many difficult subjects are candidly discussed including sex and drugs. Health, school, creativity, and careers are broken down with specific and well thought out suggestions. The book carefully covers a range of emotions such as love without conditions, feelings of friendship and gratitude, and how relationships start and evolve. Many everyday activities are looked at from the perspective of all the basic values that should be used and instilled in children as well as their parents. Apt quotes on parents and children by various luminaries lead off short, easy to digest chapters.
      A resource section lists a roster of relevant authors and teachers along with their web sites. A number of amusing illustrations lighten the text. The title/subtitle/image combine to offer a cover that effectively depicts the book’s contents.